Topics for: I want to understand myself better.
Body and nervous system
- MethodHakomiHakomi is a mindfulness-centered body psychotherapy developed by Ron Kurtz from the 1970s on. It makes the unconscious something you can experience and access, rather than just talking about content: inner strategies become tangible while they are happening. In my work with you, Hakomi is both an attitude and a method.
- ToolIntegral reflection model with a somatic axisThe Integral Reflection Model is my own collection of directions from which a topic can be explored. It combines proven maps such as developmental models, the nervous system, inner parts, attachment, and shadow with a continuous somatic axis: the body as a mirror. The goal is not analysis, but awareness and embodiment.
- MethodNeurosystemic Integration and trauma-sensitive supportTrauma-sensitive support assumes that severe or long-lasting strain leaves traces not only in the mind, but above all in the nervous system and in the body. That is why it puts safety, relationship, knowledge about trauma, and the body at the center. Neurosystemic Integration brings these fields together so that what has been split off can come back together in small, safe steps.
Patterns and beliefs
- MapFeelings: five forces and what they tell youFeelings are not a disturbance to get rid of, but forces with a task. Each of the five basic feelings responds to an interpretation of its own: anger to “That’s wrong,” sadness to “That’s a pity,” fear to “That’s terrible,” joy to “That’s beautiful,” and shame to “Something’s wrong with me.” If you know them, you can use them instead of being driven by them or avoiding them.
- ToolLogical LevelsThe Logical Levels are a tool developed by Robert Dilts, building on ideas from Gregory Bateson. They organize human experience into six levels: environment, behavior, capabilities, values and beliefs, identity, and belonging. The model helps you recognize which level an issue sits on and where a change needs to start so that it lasts.
- AttitudeNonviolent Communication (NVC)Nonviolent Communication (NVC), developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg, turns our attention past judgments and accusations to what moves people: their feelings and needs. Its basic model has four steps, but at its core it is an attitude. Robert Gonzales deepened it with processes that are less about speaking than about sensing.
- MapPersonality models and profilingPersonality models describe the ways people consistently differ: how they gain energy, perceive, decide, and deal with others. Some sort people into types, others describe how strongly traits show up across several dimensions, and they rest on very different foundations. A profile is not a verdict on you, but an occasion to compare how you see yourself with how others see you, and to choose your patterns more consciously.
- MapTransactional analysisTransactional analysis (TA) is a model of personality and communication founded by Eric Berne. It describes the inner states from which we think, feel, and act, how conversations succeed or go off the rails, and how patterns learned early on help write the story of our lives. Its goal is autonomy: being able to choose freely instead of reacting according to an old script.
- MethodWorking with beliefs using The WorkThe Work is a method developed by Byron Katie for questioning stressful thoughts instead of fighting them. A stressful statement is examined with four simple questions and then turned around, and for each turnaround you look for genuine examples. The goal is not to get rid of a thought, but to see it so clearly that it lets go of you.
- MethodWorking with valuesValues are what matters to us: freedom, honesty, connectedness, security. They give strength and direction and stand in an inner order of rank. Working with values makes this order visible, clarifies contradictions, and uncovers values we try to achieve through behavior, even though their fulfillment isn’t in our hands at all.
Systems
Development and consciousness
- AttitudeExistential coachingExistential coaching goes back to Viktor E. Frankl and Alfried Längle’s Existential Analysis. It doesn’t look for solutions first, but for insight: what is life asking of you right now, and which response is truly yours? Four fundamental questions help you check whether you can inwardly consent to something.
- AttitudeShadow workShadow is everything about you that you don’t want to feel, name, or live: uncomfortable impulses as well as hidden strengths. Shadow work means noticing these sides, meeting them, and taking them back as your own. It is part of every development, because every stage produces its own shadows.
- MapStagesStages is a developmental model by Terri O’Fallon. It describes how, over the course of a life, the way people perceive and interpret themselves, others, and the world changes. The twelve researched stages arise from three simple questions, and Kim Barta has built on them a clear view of shadow: of the parts of us we don’t know yet.
- MethodWholeness WorkWholeness Work is a method developed by Connirae Andreas. It doesn’t treat an emotional reaction as a problem you have to understand, but as a sensation with a location, a size, and a shape. Then it looks for the I that perceives this sensation and invites both to open and relax into awareness. You don’t do anything in the process; you notice what happens by itself.
Integral philosophy
- MethodIntegral coachingIntegral coaching applies Ken Wilber’s integral map to accompanying people. It looks at a concern from several directions at once: at inner experience, at body and behavior, at relationships with others, and at the structures a person lives in. This creates a more complete picture, and the paths that fit become easier to see.
- MapIntegral philosophyIntegral philosophy is a map that Ken Wilber designed to bring together the many perspectives on people and the world. Its basic idea: all theories are true, but only partially. Under the abbreviation AQAL, it organizes five basic patterns, and anyone who uses it asks one question above all: What am I overlooking right now?